In a gender-reversal kind of way, it fits right in with the Runaway Bride. Here is my adaptation:
There is no denying that KatieLyn behaved like a scared little girl, not as a woman who is in covenant with Jehovah.
Furthermore, she refused to take godly counsel. That was an option for her. Joe had asked her to stay until morning and talk it out in counseling; their final premarital counseling session had been scheduled for 10 AM, and no red flags had turned up in the previous sessions. But she would not.
None of the excuses that she gave Joe that night make sense. She claimed that he would grow to hate her, but was unable to say why. She said that the house scared her, but there was money to redecorate it any way that she wanted. She said that their lifestyles were too different, but when asked for an example the best that she had was that she likes to drink tea. (At the time, Joe's friends were having get-togethers at his house once or twice a month where they'd barbecue and take whiskey shots—that pretty much ended after she ran off into the middle of the night because no one felt they could have a good time anymore. That is the only thing we can figure out about her "I drink tea" comment, because otherwise it seems pretty arcane.)
And the night that she ran off, she told Joe that he was "everything" she had prayed for. That is definitely the most hurtful thing she ever said to him. Plus, it makes her look like a nutcase for running away from an answer to prayer. She left Joe totally bewildered. And she turned defiant and unapologetic for doing so. (She expressed sorrow that he was hurt, but no sorrow for refusing his request that they try one more counseling session, so I am sticking with unapologetic as the accurate word here.)
Later on she whined that Joe had caused her to not focus on God as much as she should have.
She is 180° wrong about that.
Not focusing on God as much as she should have is why she ran away in the first place.
Joe did not cause that.
The Lesson
The Facebook meme cuts straight to the problem. KatieLyn is immature. Fortunately that is a problem with a fairly straightforward solution: Take responsibility. Stop making an idol of a mother who wants to keep you as her daughter and start honestly following your heart toward the Lord. It may be extremely difficult, but it is not confusing.
KatieLyn's prophecy that Joe would grow to hate her has not come true. His greatest concern for her right now is that she will settle for a guy that her mother approves of—someone who makes her mom happy because KatieLyn does not want a life of in-law problems, so she will settle for the guy who is 'close,' but not 'everything' that she ever prayed for. Joe's concern is that KatieLyn will compromise to have peace with her mom.
I believe his deduction shows a lot of wisdom. I have multiple reasons for believing this, all of which have been mentioned in one form or another in previous posts. If that happens, I will make a prophecy of my own: KatieLyn can know exactly when she is being pushed into immaturely choosing her mother's opinion over the Lord's will when she hears her mom say something like, "Katie, no man is perfect."
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