Today's picture is one of those posters that gets liked, and shared, and generally passed around on Facebook. It is not incredibly deep, nor does it have a strong biblical worldview. But it is sweet, and it does do a nice job emphasizing how enduring love is grounded in unremarkable simplicity and looks out for the other person's well-being more than his/her own.
That is why this sentence, "fall in love with someone who makes you question why you were afraid to fall in love in the first place," is one that remains the Not My Story line for Joe.
KatieLyn did fall in love. And she was not afraid—at first. And later, when she did say that she was afraid that she could not make Joe happy long-term and that she was afraid that he would grow to resent her, the feeble reasons that she gave, (she enjoys coffee and books, while Joe likes the weekend cigar) simply do not add up.
Joe drinks coffee. He is literate. KatieLyn is not being asked to take up cigar smoking, and he'd give it up in a second if he didn't believe that there must be more to it. That part of the poster is Not Joe's Story because KatieLyn refuses to take questions.
The basic lesson here is that KatieLyn sucks at breaking up and calling off a wedding. Runaway brides, especially those who are running back to their former lifestyle, ought to avoid telling the groom that he deserves better. Trying to make the breakup sound as if she had to do it in the best interest of Joe is all bunk since her actions say either (a) he deserves to be run from, or (b) she found it more important to run back to mommy.
Telling the groom whom you are ex-ing that he deserves better is an insult because he believes that you are wonderfully and perfectly suited for him just the way you are. He believes the Lord brought you together, which makes you the best he deserves.
A proper rejection should be more about KatieLyn. She should fess up and say she's happier without him, that she does not miss him at all, that she is having a smashing time as a single, that between teaching the kids at church/daycare and sharing a cup of coffee with a co-worker she never gets lonely, that she is comfortable with her decision to ask God for the security of what is behind Curtain B instead of walking out His original direction to her in faith, that living with her parents and cleaning for her mother is fulfilling her life-long dream, that she is content in her codependency, and that she doesn't regret leaving him. That she never, ever had a doubt, and that her mommy has promised she can get a cat.
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