I was checking out public domain images for a picture of the serpent of Eden—do you know that in practically every picture, the serpent had already lost its legs before Eve ever took the fruit! That is a lesson in itself: how we get locked into images that are not accurate and those images are perpetuated throughout our culture. Genesis 3:6 records that she took from the tree's fruit and ate; and she gave also to her husband with her, and he ate. It is not until eight verses later in Genesis 3:14 that the Lord curses the serpent:
"On your belly you will go, and dust you will eat all the days of your life."
But in many illustrations we see the fruit is still uneaten on the tree, yet the serpent has no legs, as if he'd already suffered the curse! In the rare pictures where the serpent is walking upright, he looks like either an out-of-shape dinosaur or a character that frequents a StarWars bar. None looked like the the description of the serpent from Ezekiel 28:12,13—
You had the seal of perfection, Full of wisdom and perfect in beauty. You were in Eden, the garden of God; Every precious stone was your covering: The ruby, the topaz and the diamond; The beryl, the onyx and the jasper; The lapis lazuli, the turquoise and the emerald; And the gold, the workmanship of your settings and sockets, was in you.I have wondered if KatieLyn didn't have a similarly skewed image of what marriage should look like, one where she was seeing things that had not happened yet—and never happened as pictured, and therefore made decisions based on unscriptural misconceptions.
Another part of the Eden story that frequently gets distorted is the misconception that God didn't want the first couple to enjoy the fruit. God was not trying to deny them pleasure; He was wanting them to trust Him to know what is good. We read in Isaiah 1:19 that the Lord really did have their best interests in mind: If you are willing and obedient, you will eat the good things of the land. The Lord does want us to eat the good things of the land, but there were two requirements, willingness and obedience.
It was a test. He asked them to obey because they believed Him, even if they didn't understand.
They decided to not believe it.
Notice the "set up" for this test. The serpent is subtle and crafty. He begins with a question that flatters the woman's intelligence. "Indeed, has God said, 'You shall not eat from any tree of the garden'?"
This superficially puts the woman in the role of instructor! She gets to instruct the Serpent! Although, it knew the answer better than she did.
KatieLyn's mom followed the serpent's pattern, asking questions and making comments that caused KatieLyn to doubt what God had told her, just as the serpent asked questions and made comments that caused Adam's wife to doubt what God had told him.
We can see the passive/aggressive manipulation at work. The serpent is not making demands or throwing out direct accusations at this point. He does misrepresent God in much the way that KatieLyn's mom would misrepresent Joe, but mostly once he has put the toxins in the environment, he backs off a bit and lets the woman make her own decision. You can almost see the serpent planning his defense should his action ever be brought to the court of heaven; the Lord never gave the serpent a chance to talk, but knowing the typical schemes of the devil, it is not hard to conclude that he'd have said something to the effect that when it came to consuming the fruit, the woman made the decision all on her own! Certainly Gwen, mother of the runaway bride, did not want any share of the responsibility for putting toxic doubts in her daughter's head; she claimed that KatieLyn came to the decision to run away "all by herself." As the more passive one in a codependent relationship, the only decisions that KatieLyn made "all by herself"
The serpent had made the thought of eating the fruit even more enticing. He sweetly made his suggestions as if he had the woman's best interest in mind; it would have seemed good to a naïve Eve. She really had no reason to suspect that the serpent was actually looking out for his own best interest.
The Lesson
Genesis 3 lays out the original strategy of the Enemy for destroying God's creation, and it has not changed at all in its central intent.
• The devil's standard operating policy is to send temptations by hands we do not suspect, and by those that have most influence upon us. He used KatieLyn's codependency with her mom to his advantage.
• It is the craft of Satan to portray God's direction as uncertain or unreasonable, this will rob one of his/her faith that God is trustworthy. The mother of the runaway bride never settled God's direction in her own heart, and the devil was hanging around maintaining her confusion. She ought to have told him to flee, but she could not even admit he was there.
• Satan primary strategy is first causing a person to doubt, and then to deny. This is the method he used to attack Adam's wife. This is precisely the strategy he used on KatieLyn; once she doubted that the marriage would work, she denied that it was the right thing to do.
• The devil usually promises an advantage for "eating forbidden fruit." I am not sure what kind of advantage KatieLyn thought that she would gain by disobeying God's plan for her life, except possibly that it would end the fighting with her mother.
• God's enemy strategizes to make God's people discontented with their present state, as if it were not so good as it might be, and should be. Joe, the run-from groom, remains baffled as to why KatieLyn was discontented. She ought to make that clear to him, unless of course, she does not know why either. And as time went on, that seemed to be more and more a distinct possibility. Because she progressed from being unable to give a coherent reason to refusing to being unwilling to even try, it is highly likely that the devil is still deceiving to her and that she is still believing his lies. This explanation for her choices at least aligns with demonic protocols! She probably believes that her relationship with Joe was forever destroyed and that she must put it behind her. But the only thing that makes the idea true for her is that she has so much faith in it.
• The enemy will attempt to get his victim to exercise his/her own faith in a lie. (This is the cause of all atheism, BTW.) Eve had faith that eating the fruit would make her like god. In KatieLyn's case, he got her to have faith in the lie that she is happier without Joe.
[It is interesting that Adam's wife did not have her own name of Eve until after the Lord pronounced the curses for disobedience. I'm not going to explore the ramifications in this post, but the timing is worth noting; now that there was a need for salvation, Adam and his wife had separate identities. The obedience of faith is greater than the disobedience of sin that messed everything up.]